tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570709560038176566.post3892846538672997130..comments2023-09-25T07:37:24.283-07:00Comments on Random Rambling by Jaclyn: Not Letting It GoJaclynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17701083162588325420noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570709560038176566.post-36001610985840200222010-08-19T08:08:34.071-07:002010-08-19T08:08:34.071-07:00Yesss! You nailed it. I felt this movement in my l...Yesss! You nailed it. I felt this movement in my life a couple years ago and just recently experienced a relapse. The people-pleaser relapse. I find that it comes back under different circumstances, but still feels good to be able to recognize when it does and say "I've already learned this lesson and I know what I need to do." Ya know? Thanks for the post and I'm so thrilled about your best summer ever. I'm so proud of myself for encouraging the blog cause you do it so well! (even though I'm sure there was more behind it than little ol' me)a.littlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03788573391817235840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570709560038176566.post-10678200049969041442010-08-04T10:18:51.883-07:002010-08-04T10:18:51.883-07:00love it, totally agree, but i would still love a l...love it, totally agree, but i would still love a long walk with you.christina clarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11308549695880228634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570709560038176566.post-50547384441879231422010-08-04T10:09:14.915-07:002010-08-04T10:09:14.915-07:00Good for you Jaclyn! I know what you mean-- I hav...Good for you Jaclyn! I know what you mean-- I have been a people pleaser for a long time too and suddenly came to the realization about a year ago that I was subconsciously letting people walk all over me and take advantage of me. It's a fine line-- being the peace-maker, but also standing up for yourself. So go you!!Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04812787367184774923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570709560038176566.post-56104099510885633662010-07-23T12:35:31.022-07:002010-07-23T12:35:31.022-07:00I fully support these sentiments.I fully support these sentiments.Liz Lambsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11283213867222076190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570709560038176566.post-67196583334159265922010-07-23T03:52:18.501-07:002010-07-23T03:52:18.501-07:00It's growing up. The fact is, we, as women, a...It's growing up. The fact is, we, as women, are raised to believe this fiction that "good girls" make other people happy. "Good girls" don't disagree, don't stand up for themselves. That's BS--and, even worse, it's a method of control. The fact is, getting along with other people, and making them happy, is good--up to a point. But making other people happy should *never* come at the cost of honoring your own dignity, and self worth, and boundaries. <br /><br />Ultimately, people only treat you as well as you treat yourself. And, if you calmly and politely assert a boundary, and someone else has an issue with it, it's *their* problem--not yours. You didn't do anything "wrong" by not being a doormat, regardless of what they say.<br /><br />I'm a serious recovering people pleaser, myself. To the point where I let my MIL almost kill my cat. So I totally understand. You can email me if you want :-)C.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08086277404490573891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570709560038176566.post-76163231704824137112010-07-22T23:27:24.800-07:002010-07-22T23:27:24.800-07:00Can you tell me how to get to that point in life? ...Can you tell me how to get to that point in life? I am seriously lacking and in desperate need.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17460429407159752310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570709560038176566.post-11401471720821241822010-07-22T17:42:44.542-07:002010-07-22T17:42:44.542-07:00When can we have that long walk? I'll be home ...When can we have that long walk? I'll be home soon.Anna Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02512070489724807816noreply@blogger.com